When it comes to hurts, do we turn to the Healer or do we allow the stealer to destroy?
I have been alone, being more in the mind than in the body, for the past 9 months. Everyone around me seems to move through their life, knowing where they are going and who with, while I am standing and watching mine go by, it seems, and for once not knowing where this path I am on, will go. I feel I am on a time limit and not much is left. The time I am talking about is having babies. (If I want any more) Have you felt that way? Looking back over my married life, yes, I was read More >
It’s a cold Saturday morning and I decided that my girls and I would go and see a chic flick. I suggested “Love Happens” with Jennifer Aniston! I thought it would be a nice romantic movie, something that girls would love to watch without a man falling asleep next to them. My oldest was like…NOOOOO..but she gave in and decided to sit next to me and watch the movie. Looking at the empty seats, she counted herself, me and my youngest daughter and another woman. So, there were 4 of us in this little area at the noon showing. I guess she was trying to make a point?!
It was a touching movie. I wouldn’t call it a romantic movie though it does have some great ideas for sparking the dying flame in your relationship. There are a lot of things we can do that are free and crazy that show you care enough about the person. To make them live life and put a smile on their face. This movie is about a man who deals with the loss of his spouse by writing a book to help others. But does he really deal with HIS loss? He is going to different cities and doing a week seminar to help others take the first step, of many, in recovery. I personally haven’t really experienced the death of a loved one that was really close to me, like a child, parent or spouse. I have lost my dog and went through the grieving process, with a tear or two, here and there. I really can’t imagine losing someone so close to me but I know it will eventually happen, like it does for so many of us.
It was interesting that the movie pointed out fear.
That we allow fear to stop us when we lose someone. He brought up that some stop doing things that make us who we are. They die to self. For example: Do you still take the elevator or taxi? Do you stop working in a certain field? Do you stop attending certain events or stop going to a store that you frequented with your loved one? It hurts because they aren’t there or the last time you did a certain thing, like ride in an elevator, was with them.
I don’t know what type of books or help is out there for those who have lost a loved one but I would like to hear from you and what has helped you cope.
