It’s a cold Saturday morning and I decided that my girls and I would go and see a chic flick. I suggested “Love Happens” with Jennifer Aniston! I thought it would be a nice romantic movie, something that girls would love to watch without a man falling asleep next to them. My oldest was like…NOOOOO..but she gave in and decided to sit next to me and watch the movie. Looking at the empty seats, she counted herself, me and my youngest daughter and another woman. So, there were 4 of us in this little area at the noon showing. I guess she was trying to make a point?!
It was a touching movie. I wouldn’t call it a romantic movie though it does have some great ideas for sparking the dying flame in your relationship. There are a lot of things we can do that are free and crazy that show you care enough about the person. To make them live life and put a smile on their face. This movie is about a man who deals with the loss of his spouse by writing a book to help others. But does he really deal with HIS loss? He is going to different cities and doing a week seminar to help others take the first step, of many, in recovery. I personally haven’t really experienced the death of a loved one that was really close to me, like a child, parent or spouse. I have lost my dog and went through the grieving process, with a tear or two, here and there. I really can’t imagine losing someone so close to me but I know it will eventually happen, like it does for so many of us.
It was interesting that the movie pointed out fear.
That we allow fear to stop us when we lose someone. He brought up that some stop doing things that make us who we are. They die to self. For example: Do you still take the elevator or taxi? Do you stop working in a certain field? Do you stop attending certain events or stop going to a store that you frequented with your loved one? It hurts because they aren’t there or the last time you did a certain thing, like ride in an elevator, was with them.
I don’t know what type of books or help is out there for those who have lost a loved one but I would like to hear from you and what has helped you cope.
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For the last day of 2008, while my husband and teenage son were on the first row, in the end zone watching Vanderbilt play against Boston College in the Music City Bowl, I took my teenage girls to a movie. We decided to watch 
their ‘clearance puppy’ as the next step after their marriage, instead of babies. It reminded me of my husband and I when we got married. Our first addition to the Agnew clan was Cocoa, a deer chihuahua. With long legs and big ears, she looked like a rat as a baby but grew into her own. She was so faithful and loyal but not very obedient, which led to her death. She was 8 years old.
So you had a bad day! As you drive home you notice that your taken deep breaths a lot and sighing. You decide when you get home you are going to have a big glass of red wine or maybe you’re a beer person and want a couple of beers. You can understand how people become alcoholics, no pun intended!
